How do you know when you’ve grown up?
Is it when you have new epiphanies every so often?
When suddenly the haze around many issues and conflicts in your mind seems to melt away and solutions look crystal clear?
When you realise that your friend is your friend only because that’s what she always has been and not because you connect with her on many levels?
When you realise that you can’t bond with one friend by bad-mouthing the other?
When it finally hits you that deceit, lies, gossip, playing mind games and keeping a record of ‘who knows what’ is just too tedious and completely unnecessary?
I think it’s all this and more. When you acknowledge that being clear in your mind is so much easier than justifying confusion.
When you realise that being part of someone else’s melodrama all the time, only takes away the chances of your life being exciting.
When you find yourself actually following the advice you give to your friends all the time.
When you find yourself actually appreciating people for being clear-headed, sorted and fundamentally solid about their ideals.
When you learn to appreciate the differences between you and the people you’re close to. (Trust me – this may sound the easiest, but it’s something the best of us struggle with every day.)
Or when you learn to deal with family stress, diseased loved ones, the plumber, a burnt finger, a disgruntled friend, a pressure cooker and a pigeon in the house all at the same time. Or balance a demanding boss, a bitchy colleague and a particularly tedious job all by being politically correct...........all the while trying to be a social, creative – yet sorted, intelligent, balanced and fun person?
It’s not easy to grow up. Especially when you know...that there's miles to go...before you sleep.