Tuesday, April 13, 2010

The mind of a 20 something-year-old


Quarter life crisis. Over the hill. 4 years from 30. 14 years from 40.
Finally we've reached a point where we think we've grown up. Into the people we always wanted to be. Or have we? Isn't there room to grow...till you're 86 at least? Ah thank god, that's a good 60 years away.

Why do I feel like we've reached this point in time, where we're all frozen. Frozen in space and time. Looking at our lives from the outside. Seeing the clock ticking, people changing, parents getting older, full grown adults getting younger and 17 year olds with a world-weary look in their eyes.

Teenagers seem more and more opinionated and pig-headed. Adults seem more and more outdated.
You can't believe your mother doesn't know how to use a laptop mouse.
You also can't believe that your 10 year old niece doesn't know how to use her imagination.
Suddenly when somebody leaves the bathroom messy it becomes an 'issue'.
Suddenly you become particular about people touching your face.
Suddenly the way people chew grates on your nerves even more than exam papers did.
Sometimes, when you're partying, and NOT blind drunk you're looking at your watch more than you ever did.
Sometimes, when you're partying and you ARE blind drunk, you swear and swear and swear again that you will NEVER drink again. EVER.
Suddenly dinners, lunches, coffees, picnics, concerts, matches, treasure hunts, treks, board game nights and movies seem like a lot more fun than a night club is. While curling up in bed with a good book or watching a few episodes of your favourite sitcom are the MOST appealing. Why? What's happened? 18 till I die right? Then how come I'm avoiding making a party plan on a 'week night'! Since when am I a 'morning person'???
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When you see teenage boys and girls leaving all their self-respect behind the camera and reveling in being abused, tortured, objectified, laughed at and humiliated, all for some extra pocket money to party and buy some branded clothes, you feel shocked and start spouting 'aunty' dialogues to the tune of "Haww what are they showing these days? They are asking boys to rate how hot a girl is in front of her and asking them whether they will choose love or cash!? What has this world come to!!!"

What has this world come to? You're spouting aunty dialogues? You're saying things you used to scoff at 10 years ago. Yes. This day has come! Like it or not! You're leaving behind - albeit slowly - all the hedonism of the last 10 years...you're slowly morphing into a 'grown up'. You're slowly starting to value outings, people, relationships, friends, family.

You're slowly preparing for the next 10 years of your life - hedonistic in a different way maybe. Only time will tell.

Is this what it feels like to be 26?

I guess so.


  1. shaista...it was a true expression of a subconsious mind and a life in hindsight..well i am 8 years ahead of you and may be my story will tilt little than yours but the baseline of the entire concept of hedonism remains the same..well said and weel done..cheers..yogi

  2. hey Shaista, thought this was really well written. Truly an expression of what all of us are feeling these days... loved reading it!

    Keep blogging,

  3. I've heard that phrase "quarter life crisis" twice this past week, just as I was realizing how many issues there are that need parallel sorting suddenly. Till this point, life seemed to be reasonably straight forward--not simple, but one thing happening at a time. That's what's making me feel "grown-up"

    Identified with a lot of this piece, and really enjoyed it! Nice write up :)

  4. my sweet shoidy! quarter life crisis! i SO identify with this ...i love you :)

  5. When I read this, theres only one thing I thought of immediately - you need to write your book soon. This is amazing and so well put - You've really outdone yourself with this one Shai :-)

  6. Really, really appreciate the feedback.
    Yogi :) thanks for all the support...
    Pri, thank you :) have loads more to blog about!
    Veena, parallel-sorting...see that's just the kinda thing I'm talking abt ;)
    Faru...thank u! love u too!
    Sloanyyy...MUAAH - thanks a mill - for everything!