Saturday, March 31, 2012

Losing yourself

Every so often you find that through the years - your perception of who you are keeps changing. What never tends to change however, are the dreams and plans you had for yourself years a teenager even.

Or more often than not, you find yourself just altering those plans and dreams in your head based on where you are in life at the present moment.

People will come and go. Work environments will change. There will be phases where one or two people will take priority in your life. There will be times where you will experience mental growth spurts.

But somewhere somehow, the core of your being will always want what you always wanted. The dream. The book written. The beautiful house with a sea-view. Someone completely deserving of you to love.

And the way you see yourself - your thoughts, your upbringing, your likes and dislikes and basic values - will also never change. What changes is your willingness to compromise your vision...based on reality.
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But if you stay true to what you were - what you essentially are - and what you want for yourself, you will ultimately achieve it. Even if people all around you are compromising on their visions and dreams and bartering them for new ones. The new ones may even be better than anything they imagined. But then again...they may not.

And you will stray from the Essential Path of You...many many times. You will try to convince yourself that the path you've strayed onto is better, greener, smoother and wider. The fact remains that no matter how the path may be, the destination will still be different from your dream.

And the best people to lead you back onto your original path are your sisters, your brothers, your best friends and childhood buddies. Because they know you. The old you. The original you. The you who you want to be.

Take their hands and make your way back to your path. Because in the end, every step will be worth it.


  1. Very true, That I've just gotten outta school. I truly miss my old friends. doesn't mean people in college are bad, Just that it's hard to find myself alive amidst them. Old times die hard :D :D

  2. I know exactly what you mean but then the question is What is the real you anyway? The way you were in primary school or when life changed after 10th boards or did you really find yourself in college? :)

  3. The only real 'you' is here and now! A lot went into making you what you are and what you will be and this one moment is as important as any in shaping the future. You have license to dream but do dreams determine you or do you determine your dreams!

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